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Nobody likes criticism. You can be one of those dicks who claims that criticism is good, it teaches you where you’re going wrong and how to improve etc but you’re fooling nobody. You may be finding it ‘useful’ but you don’t actually like it. 

I hate criticism. Or a particular kind of criticism. I can handle the type that’s constructive, that shows me how to improve. But when people criticis me just for the sake of being a cunt then I shut down and blank them out. They fall off my personal radar. Do I think they care? No, but I don’t care what they think. I just remove them from my life.

There’s a particular brand of criticism I’ve received from an ex partner. I didn’t pay attention at the time as she was spouting all kinds of arse-gravy at the time, all the while she was ignoring her own faults. But lately I’ve been dangerously close to repeating the actions she described. And it occurred to me I’d repeated that particular behaviour elsewhere during my life. At the very earliest I can recall it over 20 years ago. 

So I’ll swallow my pride and admit this particular ex was right. I’m by no means proud of my actions, or my inability to prevent it occurring again. But now I’ve recognised it I can and will work on it. Let’s see how this plays out. 

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